Sharbari Ahmed (continued)
"I was raised in a very liberal Muslim family that is originally from Bangladesh. Abortion was something that just simply was never discussed. Growing up, no one sat me down and said, 'You know Sharbari, if you get pregnant you have options.' We didn't talk about abortion or even birth control for that matter because, of course, we were not even supposed to be having sex. So, when the time came and I had to make this very difficult decision, I was living in NYC. I was 23 years old, and I had started seeing the man who is actually my husband now, and I became pregnant, I gained a very personal understanding of what abortion and reproductive rights means. It means control over my body. It means having confidence that I have a choice in the event of an unwanted pregnancy. The comfort and assurance that came with knowing I could access a safe and legal abortion cannot be understated. Were I living in Bangladesh, my options would have been much different-and perhaps my health even jeopardized.
That was eight years ago. I have a little child now-but still do think about my decision. While I do not regret it, I have a much stronger appreciation of our right to safe and legal reproductive health. This is much bigger than my little incident. This has to do with thousands of people who don't have access; who don't have a choice.
Although it is interesting, in my situation as a young American woman who believes in the right to choose; it is not as if I wear this opinion on my sleeve. No one asks me, 'Did you ever have an abortion?' I mean people don't really ask you that, so you don't really have the opportunity to discuss having an abortion. But I think it is important for women to understand the experience of being able to have-to choose to have-an abortion. In my case, I guess I did sort of just assume it would be okay. This is the United States and the health care is supposed to be one of the best in the world. I had faith and I actually lucked out, I have to say how personable the people were and how tender and how thoughtful.
But I think about what my experience would be if I had become pregnant in Bangladesh. I might have been dead by now. The health care there is dubious at best. People in Bangladesh don't die of their actual surgeries, but from staph infections and complications resulting from the surgeries. I've heard of so many young women who had abortions in Bangladesh who just died, hemorrhaged, mostly from infections. So I think my situation would have been vastly different."
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